A strap on dildo is a sex toy specifically designed for some form of penetration or stimulation - the vagina, anus, or mouth being the most common. Solo pleasure is one use, partner play the other. Various shapes, sizes, and materials of strap on dildos are available; the amount of pleasure each user can obtain from them is near infinite based on personal preferences.
Using a strap on dildo safely and effectively is important; body safe materials (silicone being the prime example) should be chosen. A patch test is recommended, keeping the toy clean with warm water and mild soap if possible. Lubricant of some sort must be used for comfort, listening to one's own body and stopping at any point of discomfort is a part of the experience.
Choosing a strap on comes down to two main factors: size and material. Smaller dildos are often suggested for beginners, supple materials again being ideal. Shape is also a consideration, many 'targeted' types of stimulation have specific strap on dildos made for them. Knowing how to use the strap on properly is important - pre-use cleaning (soap and water) should never be skipped. Re-using a strap on should always include cleaning it well, or at least as well as possible.
Lubricant, as previously mentioned, reduces all forms of unwanted friction and/or pain. Slow and careful use of any strap on, or indeed any sex toy, is the best way to enjoy the full experience of pleasure. Painful or intense sensations should never be accepted as a part of the experience.
Start by slowly inserting the strap on dildo and exploring how it feels before increasing the speed or any form of movement of the strap on itself. Paying attention to signals from the body that indicate some kind of discomfort is important; stopping immediately if this occurs is a must. Sexual pleasure is where strap on dildos truly come into their own - both solo and partnered play benefit from their use. Exploring different angles and depths of penetration is another great aspect they allow for. Many people use them specifically for anal play, the anal opening being considered an erogenous zone. Using a strap on can make solo masturbation more 'exciting', multiple erogenous zones being stimulated at once if desired.
Overall strap on dildos are an excellent sex toy to push pleasure, various types of arousal, and to some small degree intimacy. Responsible and safe use is key, extra pleasurable experiences are possible. Alone or with a partner, taking it slow is always the better part of wisdom. New levels of all the above mentioned (and more) can be achieved.
1. Understand the Purpose and Function of a Strap on Dildo: A strap on is designed to look and in many ways feel like a penis. Vaginal or anal penetration are the primary uses, clitoral stimulation being a near constant secondary use. Shapes, sizes, colors and materials (silicone, glass, metal being common) all play a part in what a strap on can do for the user.
2. Lubrication: Hard material strap on dildos need to be well lubed. You can get water- or silicon-based lubricant specifically made for sex toys. Avoid all forms of oils, Vaseline, and any product not made with sex toy use in mind.
3. Choose an Appropriate Position: The best position to use a strap on dildo in will depend on the type of stimulation you're looking for. Vaginal or anal penetration being the most common examples, experimenting with various positions is recommended to find what 'works' for you.
4. Start Slow and Increase Your Speed and Pressure as Needed: Once a generally comfortable position is found, slowly insert the strap on dildo into your partner's orifice (shallow being the starting point if possible). Depth and subsequent speed can and should be increased over time. New angles your partner may enjoy are part of the exploration process; pressure, all forms thereof, can be pushed and pulled to that point.
5. Try Different Techniques and Positions: Different techniques are what will take this play to the next level. Teasing with the strap on (not inserting) is a great start, or at least partially desired end result. Thrusting patterns, angles, combining it with other toys (vibrating butt plugs come to mind) are all good directions to push play in different directions.
6. Take Breaks in Between to Check On Your Partner's Comfort: Powering through strap on play is tempting, but as previously mentioned intensity builds. Check in with your partner, physical or otherwise.
7. Clean Up After Yourself: Always clean the strap on, warm water and/or anti-bacterial is best. Dry it completely and store it safely.
